It's nice to be important, but more important to be nice.~ John Lennon

Being nice to others is very important. People won't like or respect you if you are rude to them. Here are some Action Steps to take to help you along the way as well as some helpful Tips.




Steps

If somebody says something mean to you, brush it off like you never heard it. Don't let one comment ruin your day. It might even help to chuckle at yourself to show them that they're not going to get to you.

Be nice to EVERYONE, even your enemies. Who knows? They might start being nice to you, too!

When you find yourself judging or criticizing people, try to walk a mile in their shoes. That is, consider where they're coming from, and why they do what they do. Give them the benefit of the doubt.

Defend people who are bullied and teased. Empower them to defend themselves.

Be honest, but not brutally honest. Tell people how you really feel, and if the truth might come off a little harsh, be gentle and sensitive - but still honest.

Learn to sense when people need a helping hand, and be there to offer it.

Tips

Don't act fake. Others will think that you're just using them.

Do not talk behind other people's backs, even if you want to.

Learn to ask yourself, "Is it really worth it?" when confronted with situations that anger or upset you. Thinking about that internally generally gives you the moments needed to cool off and realize it's not.

Your life will be easier if you learn to "get over it." You're going to be with some of these people forever, so it's not worth fighting. When you need to have an important conversation with a friend about the problems you are having, allocate some time face to face - do not argue via e-mail, an online chat program or through text on your phone. Show them how important it is to you by seeing each other in person.